Mutual Blossoming

Couple Inquiry

Mutual Blossoming

Guidelines for Awakening Together Through Inquiry 

  • Our main practice is Self-Inquiry, the path that has been used for thousands of years for liberation and ultimately Self-Realization.
  • The focus of this practice is on understanding and opening up to the divine within ourselves and discovering our True Nature.
  • Adhering to a set time develops a strong container for relating. (Usually 15-20 minutes with 5-10 minutes sharing.)
  • We are shifting focus away from personality towards an expanded sense of self. Meanwhile, honor what comes up.
  • Trust creates openness, understanding and beautiful relationships.
  • We promise to support our process and the unfolding True Nature of our partner.
  • We commit to maintaining an open-minded curiosity.
  • We take full responsibility for all of our thoughts, words and deeds.
  • We never blame our partner for how we feel, for our feelings are our responsibility.
  • We inquire into and explore the messages our feelings have for us.
  • The words we use are vibrations that have enormous impact, and so we need to choose our words carefully.
  • Our thoughts, our conversations and our actions inform and create the world we live into. Let’s be conscious creators.
  • We all already have what we need within ourselves and our partners can help us remember what we may have forgotten.
  • Practice listening to your partner with no agenda.
  • Develop an attitude of neutral loving kindness.
  • Do not interrupt another’s monologue.
  • Ask questions, but do not interpret.
  • Trust the process.
  • NEVER physically act out on your self or your partner. No violence. Physical abuse ends relationships.
  • NEVER verbally assault your partner. If you do, apologize immediately. Verbal abuse ends relationships.
  • Stay clean and clear with all of your agreements, especially regarding sexuality and finances.
  • Clean up all addictive or codependent behaviors with a therapist, mentor or 12 step program.
  • When triggered let your partner know that you would like to find time to inquire to explore your feelings and insights later when you feel calm.
  • Keep impeccable agreements with your partner.
  • Show up on time. This shows that you respect your partner.
  • Process difficult material with a therapist.
  • Practice love, kindness and support with your partner.
  • Set times aside for special dinners, walks and dates.
  • Remember that your Inner Guidance and True Nature ultimately will reveal great wisdom, truth and love.
  • Honor your partner and see the Light in them.
  • Trust your inner guidance, it will lead you Home.
Copyright Ayn Cates Sullivan and John Patrick Sullivan 2013