Let’s Inquire – Total Acceptance of the Self and Others

Inquiry is historically the main path to Self-Realzation. Inquiry takes you on a voyage of self-discovery. You can also inquire with a partner. For so many centuries spiritual people felt they needed to be celibate and alone, but as we enter this next cycle of existence ideas are changing. Many people now wish to become liberated with a partner and to raise awakened children.

My husband and I practice the art of inquiry daily. What we notice is that our relationship over the last decade has become increasingly harmonious. When we accept every aspect of our being and others then something really wonderful begins to happen. There is less and less focus on expectations, disappointments and perceived betrayals. Instead there is an increased excitement about discovering the depths of ourselves and each other. We also facilitate the practice of inquiry with individuals and couples. Inquire at for details.

The Fundamental Practice of Inquiry

1) Take an hour in which you will not be disturbed.  Have a timer with you that you can set easily.

2) Begin by closing your eyes for five minutes together and turn your focus within. (In the beginning stages we focus on experiencing silence, and later we might focus on Presence. This reminds us that we are becoming receptive and that we are consciously inviting in divine intelligence.)

3) Engage inquiry by simply asking what is arising for your partner in the moment or by choosing a color. Click on a color box:

4) Set your timer for 15 minutes. One person engages in a personal monologue about what is arising for them in the moment. The other person listens without interruption or commentary.

5) Take five minutes to share with each other what you have learned. (In inquiry we are learning to become increasingly aware of how we feel. So the one rule is that we take full responsibility for what we feel. We do not engage in blaming others, but instead accept the totality of our inner nature and as well as the myriad expression of others. It is not about changing what we feel, accomplishing a goal or fixing any one. It is about becoming completely aware of the moment.)

6) Switch roles and repeat number 4 & 5.

7) Conclude by bowing to each other and True Nature.

This practice is based on the work of A.H. Almass and the Diamond Approach work. John Patrick Sullivan is a student of the Diamond Approach academy and is now working with students interested in awakening through inquiry. To learn more or book a private session with him follow this link: or write

The Practice Of Self-Inquiry

Every living being longs always to be happy, untainted by sorrow; and everyone has the greatest love for himself, which is solely due to the fact that happiness is his real nature. Hence, in order to realize that inherent and untainted happiness, which indeed he daily experiences when the mind is subdued in deep sleep, it is essential that he should know himself. For obtaining such knowledge the inquiry ‘Who am I?’ in quest of the Self is the best means.” -The Collected Works of Sri Ramana Maharshi

The great Indian sage Ramana Maharishi described Self-Inquiry as the main and most direct path to awakening, as do Nisargadatta MaharajEckhart TolleAdyashanti, A.H. Almaas, Gangagi, Byron Katie and many enlightened teachers. Ramana encouraged his student to use inquiry to investigate their own true nature, until it is realized that there is no such thing as the self. It is at this point that we begin to have glimpses of who we truly are. We slow the mind through breathing, walking in nature and meditation, and begin asking who is the “I” that we refer to so casually. Do we really know who we are? We turn our attention back to ourselves and focus on our inner awareness. Who is it that is seeing through our eyes, feeling with our hands, beating our hearts, breathing our breaths. Over time we begin to tap into what is boundless, formless and changeless that exists within us. We realize that we are more than a person, we are a presence and that this is the true nature of all beings. We begin to understand that we are not our stories of pain and suffering, or even the tales of happiness and upliftment, we are much more that the stories that we tell. Most of us are entangled cases of misidentification. We are not the small, fragile selves who we take ourselves to be. In truth we are boundless awareness, brilliancy, compassion and love.

When we are unhappy we have become identified with something that is not real. If we are brave enough to stay with and examine the strong feelings that emerge, in most cases an inner luminous wisdom arises from within and reveals our next level of truth. We begin to realize the intelligence of our true nature, and over time we can develop the sensitivity and attunement that we have sought in our friends and lovers. Doing this work does not make you immune to feeling, actually we begin to feel more. Yet we learn to discern what is arising. As we come to know our true Self, we are able to make the Infinite Light our main station. By that I mean that we realize beyond question of a doubt that we are eternal.